16+ != Adults....

Somehow, one way or another, I get thrown into a more "mentoring" and "trainer" type role without knowing it. Not suggesting that I am a natural leader, but things just happen that way. Out of nowhere I become someone's trainer, or mentor

I have a large group of friends outside of work (one would hope so, and its not imaginative). Several individuals I hang out more with (sadly, they are not girls), and they became my student in my free for all mixed martial art lessons. There is this one individual, not someone I considered as too much of a friend, I sorta met him through a CO-OP student I was mentoring when I was with my old company. I somehow got him a job in my field, people thought that he is my cousin and gave him a job. Since then this "cousin" thing kinda just hanged on. He is 24 BTW

This "Cousin" never tries too hard in life, I mean, his family is loaded, so there is no real need for him to try. I think this is a trait that is somewhat align with the theory of evolution: Human learn from experieince and exposure, the growth of oneself is related to how much we need. Basketball player are taller for a reason, when work out we gain muscle.... yadi yadi yada... If there is need, you will find a way. But in his case, there is no real need for anything since mama and papa provided everything.

Proof? For example, papa bought him a car, a car that papa would share with him. HOWEVER, papa doesn't go out on the weekend or at night, and papa take public transit to work, so technically, its HIS car. Now, the car is a half decent (very decent to me) German made car, the "Cousin" modified the crap out of it.. boom.. blown engine, went home, nag to daddy, now daddy gave him money to rebuild the motor with even MORE crap.. nice. Oh wait, this car is still not enough, he need something more powerful. Daddy bought him an Audi TT had it for a winter, nope don't like it, sold it for a fraction of the car is worth, bought a BMW Z4. Go around showing off to the world that "Its my own car I paid for it". No you didn't, your dad loan you the money in an agreement that you will make monthly payment back to him which you never made a single payment.

He never tries in my MMA class, to him, a kick or punch is nothing more that making contacts with the pads, he always have injuries from unknown reason that stops him from trying: My back hurts, my feet hurts, I broke my knuckle, etc... of course, he goes about telling people how he is catching up to this other Italian friend of ours in terms of strength, while this Italian dude works out like 5 hours a day, and how he is faster and better fighter than my best friend while best friend has been training with me for almost a year now and made the most significant improvement

Another issue of self esteem....

Anyways, I was told that "Cousin" really looks up to me and want to follow my footsteps, in terms of career, interest and such. OUCH, is that a dig at me? Was I ever like this loser? Oh well, I guess in a way, being like me can be considered an improvement over his existing character. Though, won't you want to learn from the person you look up to? I have a few examples which leads me to believe that this whole "look up to you" BS is just a hoax:

1. I push myself quite a bit when i work out. I am significantly stronger and more muscular than him, yet he challenge my way of work out and called me a fat @$$ in my face

2. We went driving in his papa's Z4, he won't listen to me when I taught him how to attack a corner, he refused to listen, we wiped out and almost killed ourselves playing hotdogs with a light pole

3. He wants to learn photography, but won't stop criticizing my pictures and won't listen to my advice toward anything related to photography

4. He wanted career advice, and the one thing I notice was the lack of education, so I recommended for him to "tone down on the entertainment" and concentrate in completing his studies, he told me off and said that he live the life he wants

Does he sound like someone that is sincerely asking for advice? Thats like the perfect way to treat someone you truly look up to now doesn't it?

He also pisses everyone off during our trip last year. Two comments he made:

1. Screw you all, if there is a seat on the train I am taking it
2. I am not sitting in the middle of the taxi if I am not in the front, I don't want to sit beside Dxxe

Every time he does something stupid (like littering and spitting in public, which is extremely rude regardless of where you are, let along a foreign country), we start giving him a hard time and he always tell us "I am tourist", "I am on vacation", "I am a kid". GOD, you are not a bloody kid, a kid is someone that is 16 and under, there is a reason why the government issues driver license to people 16 and above, because it WAS proven that someone that age is responsible enough to take up his/her ADULT RESPONSIBILITIES

"Cousin" is THE reason why the government SHOULD re-evaluate the adulthood law. Maybe people under 25 are not mature enough to even be considered an adult these days.

COUSIN my @$$, stop calling me that, you are insulting my bloodline